I was just thinking about some things lately. I’m usually not an uber-excitable guy. I tend to keep quiet half the time. I usually like to make sure what I say is worth saying. Sometimes though a good thing comes along that changes that. I want to be everything a woman dreams a man to be. I know a lot of guys that don’t care about that. I just wish every woman could have a guy that would give up anything and everything for her.
I have heard guys who have girlfriends oogle and drool over woman that are on tv or jogging on the sidewalk. I have to say to you guys, eventually it comes out and the girl sees you for who you really are. These are the same guys that get married and wonder why they are living a wrecked marriage. So what if I watch some skinny 19 year old run down the beach on MTV. I’m not bangin her. I’m just watching. Guys, that doesn’t help.
Here is what a girl hears. “I know I’m supposed to be with you and love you. But this girl looks better than you. You have become second best to me, and I just don’t want to share this with you. I want to please myself instead of letting you please me” (Girls, you can expand a little in the comments if you want to). Yes, she hears that. And although the gals can have their share of faults, that doesn’t license us to intentionally fail.
Genesis paints the picture a little better. When Adam first looks at Eve,
It doesn’t go into how hot she looks. It only shows that he sees his mate, and says, “she is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.” The word bone here is also understood as substance or self. The word flesh is a connotation of blood relation of sorts. And although his naming her in such a way may be done in some sort of way, he is actually naming her his equal. She is not lesser than him so that he can treat her less than him, nor is she better than him, and, as I think Paul is hinting at, to be over him in authority (I say that because Paul was a well educated Jew and would have been taught such the position on this was a mix of social commentary saying where we are and where we should be).
So how are you treating your woman?
Are you worried about her feeling loved and being brought up to equality with you?
Or are you worried about yourself getting what will make you feel satisfied, in control, powerful, manipulative, etc.?
I think we need to be aiming ourselves at loving others more than ourselves, even our women, especially our women. Stop being caught up in the ways of the empire that say you should be caught up in filling yourself with the breads of ill-gotten gains. Worry about giving your earnings and your rights and your agendas to God and others. Don’t give in to the rebellion that says fight for you rights to party and be your own man. Give in to service and love.
Promote peace, promote grace, promote God’s love to others, even the ladies (can I hear it for the girl power in the hizzouse.)